It’s Groundhog Day which means January has come and gone! And if you made a New Year’s Resolution, I’m curious about what you have learned so far. If you didn’t make a resolution, I completely understand and want to hear how you successfully implement improvements in your life!
According to Statistic Brain:
- 41% of Americans usually make New Year’s Resolutions
- 17% of Americans infrequently make New Year’s Resolutions
- 42% of Americans never make New Year’s Resolutions
- 9.2% of these people felt successful in achieving their resolutions :-(
- 48.4% of these people have infrequent success
- 42.4% of these people never succeed on their resolution each year
I stopped making New Year’s Resolutions a long time ago because I fell into the 9.2% category. Looking back, I realize I failed because I decided to make a resolution at 11:59 PM, a minute before the darn ball dropped. I mean how much thought did I really put into that decision? Zero thought. In a rush, I followed the pack and promised to exercise more, eat better, or have more fun. Sound familiar?
When we put little to no thought into what we want and/or how we can realistically get there, we set ourselves up for failure. As your coach, I want to help you achieve thoughtful and highly achievable improvements in your life, all year long!
My passion is helping people move forward with courage. You increase your courage by remaining curious about the life around you and taking the time to consistently look, learn, and live.
Here are my tips for achieving ongoing and lasting improvements in your life:
1. Identify and clarify what you want to achieve --- not what someone else is doing and not what someone else thinks you should be doing,
2. Explore all the feasible options and paths that you are willing to pursue
3. Commit to learning every step of the way--- Observe what works for you, what you like, what you don’t like and accept that it’s okay to refine your path and/or your goal until it meets your needs
It’s only when you're honest about what you want for yourself and what you’re willing to do to get there, that you're more committed to keeping your promises and more likely to be successful.
So, tell me, what have you have learned?
Are you curious about how coaching will help you? Contact me today!
All the best, Linda
♫ It’s the most…wonderful time of the year! ♫
Well, you want it to be wonderful, but most days you feel less wonderful and more stressed out. For many reasons, year end may feel like you’re running out of time to complete everything on your to-do list. One way to decrease stress is to be clear about what’s important to you. With this clarity, you can choose to focus your time and energy on the items that bring you joy…the items that make this time of year wonderful!
My passion is helping people move forward with courage. You increase your courage by remaining curious about the life around you and ... remaining curious about yourself.
Ask yourself, “What’s important to me?” Try my two-step simple process to find out what’s important to you and make this the most wonderful time of the year (hint: you can use this process every day and make all year, every year, wonderful!):
STEP 1: Prioritize the items on your list of things to do.
Let’s face it, there will always be a list, all year long! The key to managing that list is knowing what’s important to you at any point in time.
Pick a quiet moment, look over your to-do list, and assess the importance of each item by assigning a unique sequential number to each item. Hint: No two items can share the same sequential number. Oh, and use a pencil (see my next point).
STEP 2: Repeat STEP 1
Review your list to reassess and modify the priority of each item as necessary. Do this often because, as life happens your priorities may change, and that’s not a bad thing!
What can be a bad thing --- and lead to more stress --- is when you realize you spent time and energy on items that had become less important to you.
Your sense of accomplishment (and joy) will increase when you focus on the right things at the right time (what’s important to you) and, of course, cross completed items off your list. So, prioritize your list as often as you need to!
Are you ready to clarify what’s important to you?
Contact me today to learn how coaching will help you move forward.
On Tuesday, October 15th, I had the honor of meeting and being interviewed by Bruce Newberry at WADK 1540 AM (Newport, RI) on his Talk of Town Show.
Bruce asked me very thought-provoking questions which is what I try to do as a life coach. When we are given the time to sit and focus on our thoughts and beliefs, that's where the real self-growth happens.
You can listen to the interview at the podcast link below (my interview starts around 27:20, right after the peppy intro music).
At one time or another, we form opinions about ourselves that prevent us from living our lives to our fullest potential. These limiting thoughts cause us to believe something is true even though it has not been proven. Essentially, limiting beliefs are assumptions.
If you’ve read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, you know the third agreement is “Don’t Make Assumptions.” The only way to rid our lives of assumptions is to ask questions until we are completely clear about what is being communicated. As Ruiz points out, “We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.”
My passion is helping people move forward with courage.
So, how do we increase our courage? I believe we increase our courage when we remain curious.
As a coach, I ask a lot of questions. Even when I have my own definition of a word or phrase, I never make an assumption about what it means to someone else. Asking questions helps me and my client gain clarity around the topic being discussed. Gaining clarity increases our knowledge which, in turn, increases our courage.
Think of a new skill (golf, guitar, baking a soufflé) you want to learn, but you think, “I won’t be good enough” or “It won’t be good enough.” Now imagine how you might answer these questions:
What assumptions are you making about trying to bake a soufflé?
What does “good enough” mean to you? Who sets the “good enough” bar in your life?
What’s the worst that can happen if you try to bake a soufflé? What could you do differently the next time you bake a soufflé?
What’s the best thing that could happen if you try to bake a soufflé? What might that give you the courage to try next?
I don’t know about you, but I’m super curious about whether I can make a soufflé, what lessons I may learn along the way, and what new skill I may try to learn after that!
What about you, what are you curious about?
By the way, if you haven’t read The Four Agreements, I highly recommend you read it --- often.
I was recently interviewed by my editor and writing coach, Stuart Horwitz, for Lisa Tener's How to Write a Book website.
In the interview I disclose how, "... writing a memoir was like watching my life as a movie. I discovered a personal transformation I never knew had happened and actually introduced myself to the newest version of me!"
My life experiences and, more specifically, the time I spent reflecting on these life experiences is what transformed me into a life coach. This time to reflect is a gift I share with my clients. I want for each of my clients to replay his/her own life experiences as a movie and be amazed while watching his/her own transformation.
Read the full interview here and let me know what you think.
Most people, myself once included, question the difference between a psychotherapist and a life coach. Given the situation, each profession can benefit you.
A psychotherapist works within a medical setting to restore or improve a patient’s mental health and typically:
Focuses on past issues, trauma, or crisis (like the death of a loved one, a heart-wrenching breakup, or a job loss)
Helps the patient accept/let go of the past and achieve emotional balance
Provides general solutions
Meets with patients in person
A life coach works outside of a medical setting to support a client’s personal development and forward movement while:
Focusing on a client’s present situation and defining future goals (What do you want?)
Asking thought-provoking questions to improve awareness and identify (What does that mean to or for you?)
Collaborating with the client to create personalized action plans to achieve desired goals (What are you willing to work for/change?)
Celebrating a client’s strengths, successes, and achievements (What are you grateful for?)
Meeting with clients in person, on phone, or via Skype (or other mutual video chat application)
If you’re still unsure how coaches differ from psychotherapists, contact me for a complimentary thirty minute meeting.
Comment here to let me know what questions you have.
Stay tuned to upcoming blog to learn how clients have benefitted from life coaching.
Are you ready to move forward with confidence and courage and live a purpose-filled life?
Quite simply, everyone can benefit from working with a Certified Life Coach, at least once in their lifetime. In fact, imagine having had a Life Coach paired with your high school guidance counselor...
- If you feel confused or overwhelmed, I will help you clarify what’s important to YOU and focus on your priorities.
- If you feel stuck (in a relationship, job, or negative state of mind), I will help YOU identify your strengths, what may be holding you back, increase your confidence, identify options, and motivate you to move toward where you really want to be.
- If you're happy, YOU can check in with me to validate your goals, manage your action plan, or just celebrate your success!
- If you just want someone to listen to YOU and support your dreams rather than having someone tell you what you should do, there are no shoulds!. There’s only what YOU want and I will help you discover, create, and thrive in the life YOU want!